Why I love Coffee

April 4, 2016

Why I love coffee. It’s like asking why do you love your dog. It’s basically like that.


I’ve been asked, “Um, how much coffee do you drink?” or “What’s a good coffee?”. I like these types of questions, so don’t ever hesitate to ask me! The more unflattering comments are, “Are you dependent, like crack dependent?” or “I don’t drink coffee, it’s gross, but tea is better for you anyway.” *insert side eye*

Anyway, I remember so vividly my dad drinking coffee. He would dip his toast in it and I would wonder what was so good about it. So, I remember asking, then begging, then pestering as professional children do so well, for a sip. The following discussion ensued and slowly but surely, I broke the man down and he let me have some coffee.

*Everyday for 4 months in like 1987*
Me: Can I try?
Dad: This is medicine, it’s not for kids.
Me: But, I’m sick, can I try?
Dad: Ask your mom.
Me: I did already, she said ask you.
Dad: NO.
Me: WHY?
Me: But, I’m 7, I’m not a kid. I’m a big kid.
Dad: Go do your algebra.
Me: But, let me have that medicine first.
Dad: $%@#$%#&* HERE!
Me: *takes a sip and almost dies instantly*
Dad: *silently does a parental “I win” dance*

This poop water then made me sick every time I saw him drink it. Then, I wondered why people drank it and drank so much of it. I went through college and grad school without so much drinking more than a cup total. I remember some professors with that stale coffee smell that wafted across the room. *Gag* I would try to drink it. I even got a coffee machine and tried to be cool by bringing a cup to class. But, I never drank it. It just tasted like burnt onions. I would meet up with friends to do work at Panera Bread, order coffee, and just stare at it. One day, I met my demise. We were working on Multilevel Modeling, some fancy stats stuff, so I thought I needed to drink coffee to understand the material. I drank it, went home, and ended up lying on my bathroom floor, dizzy and unable to move for about an hour. *Curse the poop water!*

Side story: I sat next to a girl who brought 2 VENTI sized Starbucks coffee for our 9am stats class. She’d sit there next to me, legs shaking, spazzing out, sweating, and then saying over and over: “I’m so tired”. I would just quietly smile and then text my BFF under my desk, “OMG, this girl is going to explode! She’s drinking so much poop water!”

Fast forward to 2014, my husband noticed I would hide my k-cups because I didn’t want to share and was like “Kate, really?” So, he signed me up for a coffee tasting class in Seattle at Cafe Vita and my whole life changed. I tasted bad coffee and really, really good coffee. The difference was night and day. Let me tell you right now that GOOD coffee does NOT need sugar, random flavoring, whip cream, cream, or milk. Good coffee can be enjoyed black as it could be as delicate as your black or oolong tea.

I realized I never had good coffee. This whole time I was drinking k-cups and Starbucks! Sorry Starbucks fans, I cannot. I will drink it if I’m in a questionable town. But with choices like Matchstick, Slate, and Blue Bottle, I just can’t. SB is just too strong, too bitter, too burnt, and I just think you can do better! I still gave SB a chance and went to their grand opening of the Starbucks Roastery. I waited in the rain with my kids, I was dedicated, and I’ll say the coffee there is much, much better!

Anyway, what coffee means to me? Besides keeping me awake, helping me LIVE when I’ve had only a few hours of sleep, and basically being my life line- I love coffee because it brings good people together!!

With all people: Drinking coffee is a way to catch up or talk about hard stuff, like if you want to break up or something. Coffee is such a mediator. You can stare at your coffee when you don’t have much to say and it isn’t as awkward as staring at your hands. Coffee is a way to connect and it helps people to open up. Coffee helps you talk about your family or share your passions. Coffee helps you get to know the person and see if you want them in your life. Coffee also has a way of helping you linger with that hot date if you want to linger. *Would like to linger with you Josh Groban*

Another side story: I have a thing for Josh Groban. This thing is widely known and happily accepted for anyone who knows me. My husband is strangely ok with this. I have Josh Groban mugs from his concerts that are not allowed to be used-they are only for show. But, sometimes he gets used and I’m sweating watching the person use this mug. How dare your lips touch the Groban mug! My dad visited recently and was looking through my cupboard and said “Oh it’s Josh, guess I’m not supposed to use this one. How about Harry Potter?” See, even my dad knows.


With family: I’m that big kid who gets to make coffee for her dad now and drink it with him. My mom only sort of drinks coffee only because it keeps her awake for days like my husband. I think those two are like weird unicorns. It is special to me to make my dad coffee because the thing is, I am not the best dutiful Asian daughter. I can’t be the good kid who repays their parents back for all the years of sacrifice like most good, Asian kids do. I also don’t cook very well, he gets scared if I make him a meal. So, I make him good coffee. He watches me use the Aeropress and wonders why I am doing it versus a coffee brewer to make 8 cups in one fell swoop. My dad hates inefficiency. I do, too. For him, it must be like me watching my kid eat his dinner…takes 350 years But, being a good dad, he’ll happily wait 350 years because he sees my literal joy at making coffee in the slowest possible manner on earth.

With friends who I’ve forced into my family: This is the only way I get them to come over. Otherwise, they’re too busy and no one wants to hang out with someone who has a family because they think they’re getting in the way. No guys! So, I have to lure them like a creeper and say like “I have new coffee, wanna come by??” And it always works!! *Fist pump!* This is my time to catch up with the special friends and it’s exciting to share my good coffee with them. I generally am unwilling to share my good coffee with just anyone. My husband finds this absurd but coffee is a precious commodity!

I’d love to hear why you love coffee and what brings you joy from drinking it. Is it the warmth that drizzles down your throat in the morning…or that scalding hot burn when you drink too fast? Or the promise of a good caffeine fueled level of happiness that awaits you? Is it the time with friends, family, or the thank-you-baby-Jesus-for-coffee when you’re in an awkward place? Or, is it just purely a ritual all your own- your personal me time where you can indulge in this life’s pleasure? If you don’t drink coffee, then I’m sure it’s because you’re sensitive to it. I accept that. My mom, husband, and BFF Darth Vadar are like this and I love them a lot still. Share with me anyway what brings you joy!

Thanks for reading!

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  • Reply Musely August 1, 2016 at 6:37 PM

    So – I’m guilty of k-cups.
    Before I get chased out, I love the ritual of making coffee each day. Which, sigh, is nowhere near as advanced an Aeropress, but is in the same vein…somewhat.

    Great read, Kate!

    • Reply Makeup Brew August 2, 2016 at 10:34 AM

      OMG! This is so awesome! Thank you for stopping by to read!!!!!! I still love KCups! My all time fave is the Tully’s Hawaiian Blend! What do you like! Ah! I’m always so happy to find another coffee loving friend!!!! Thank you, Iris!! #teamcoffee!

  • Reply Cat L. May 16, 2016 at 12:29 PM

    I love love love this Kate! What a wonderful read and I feel like I really got to know you! I used to be a huge coffee fan as I grew up in an Eastern European family and later married my greek husband, so I cannot remember a time when coffee wasn’t around. Someone was always drinking a cup of coffee at all hours of the day and night or making one or about to drink one. I remember back in the day when I used to work in corporate America not being able to function without my beloved cup of coffee. And not just one cup, but several throughout the day. I loved everything about the experience, as to me it was an experience: the fresh smell, the warmth of that very first sip, the memories that it brought back. But then I got pregnant and I stopped drinking coffee and turned to tea. I’ve now been obsessed with tea ever since. My husband and family are still huge coffee drinkers and drink it all day every day. I still enjoy the scent but only drink it socially every now and then. Your post actually just made me crave a little coffee. Off I go.
    ~ Cat L.

    • Reply Makeup Brew May 17, 2016 at 10:18 AM

      HI!!!!! I am in comment heaven right now!! haha! I am really happy you enjoyed this and that you felt like you got to know me better (and still like me after this!). I stopped drinking coffee for a time too, the only thing that happened was my teeth looked better haha but nothing a little whitening can’t do these days! I love tea also, my dad is a huge green tea drinker. Something about coffee and tea just conjure up so much nostalgia like you mentioned with your husband and family. It’s just love, lots of love associated with coffee & tea. I love that you appreciate coffee as many times I’ve gotten comments making it seem like coffee is poison! Well, it’s not unless you are chugging 6 gallons a day haha. And I love that you are reading my posts!!!! Thank you!!!!

  • Reply Julia April 15, 2016 at 12:06 PM

    How did I miss this post? Love this, Kate!
    I must say my relationship with coffee has not always been a pleasant one either. It started out as something you do when you get to the office before you even think about checking your emails, then progressed to me chugging four cups of it before 10 am. I decided to take a break from it and when I let it back into my life I found myself seeking out GOOD coffee. Quality over quantity. Taste over “just give me lots of caffeine NOW!!!!”. Slowly it became a ritual of taking the time to indulge and have some me time before the day gets crazy.
    Writing this makes me want to have another cup of pour over (you get the credit here!) and I’m definitely planning on tasting your favorite coffee you keep raving about! Cheers!!!

    • Reply Makeup Brew April 19, 2016 at 12:01 PM

      Hi Julia! OMG. I’m so happy you read this?! Thank you so much! I, too, am a victim of bad coffee- the starbucks caramel frap, omg why?! I’m really glad you are into good coffee and in to coffee, period!!! It’s so much fun to have such a fun interest to share together that isn’t so stressful! What are your favorite beans?! We should get together for a pour over!!! xoxo

      • Reply Julia April 21, 2016 at 9:21 AM

        Sadly, I haven’t found my one and only, but I am dating (yep, still talking about coffee , haha!). I would love to share some pour over with you! Should I bring my own mug?!?? 🤔

        • Reply Makeup Brew April 21, 2016 at 9:41 AM

          HAHAHAH ONE AND ONLY!!!!!! Love it!!!! OMG, I have mugs up the ying yang. But you know, no Josh Groabn, that’s all. hahah lol. Let’s try to set something up, you want me to ask Jane?!

          • Julia April 21, 2016 at 1:07 PM

            Let’s do it!!!

          • Makeup Brew April 21, 2016 at 1:28 PM

            I’ll text Jane! and she’ll msg you bc I don’t have your number and creepy to ask on a blog..lolol

  • Reply Clare April 15, 2016 at 12:20 AM

    One of my fav posts from you, like ever. Why? this is pretty much me – especially the part about dying instantly when I had my first taste (seriously thought all these adults are crazy), to trying very hard to love it, but obviously didn’t work out… until magically one day I did. I didn’t go for any coffee appreciation class, although I would LOVE to… and I honestly cannot remember how I magically grew to love it?! You are absolutely right that good coffee needs no extra fluff to make it ‘nicer’… good coffee is good coffee is good coffee. It needs nothing. Just like how good friends don’t need extra fluff to make time spent together better 🙂

    • Reply Makeup Brew April 15, 2016 at 10:58 AM

      Clare, you will remain my favorite for eternity. Thanks so much for reading like Thank you!! I’m really happy you enjoyed this so much. As you can see, this was the most engaging of my ramblings, how cool?!?!!? One day light and bright Clare, we’re going to share coffee together and cackle like crazy people over our gifs and hashtags!! xoxo *CACKLE*

    • Reply Julia April 24, 2016 at 9:12 AM

      Agreed! 😂

  • Reply molly April 13, 2016 at 10:51 AM

    What a wonderful read Kate ! I nodded my head all along the post because I almost have the same story though in my case I’m a tea addict but my husband loves coffee. I’m slowly warming up to the idea of having coffee in the morning. I’d love to have a cup of coffee with you 🙂

    • Reply Makeup Brew April 13, 2016 at 3:43 PM

      Molly!!! I am already SO HAPPY that 3 people even read my ramblings!!!!!! Omg, thank you for taking the time to read this!! I can’t wait to have coffee with you! I’d totally serve Blue Bottle or Slate- only the good stuff!!! Thank you sweet friend for stopping by!!! xoxo

  • Reply Wonderlusting April 13, 2016 at 9:29 AM

    ‘professional children’ hahaha. Your dad was wise! When I worked in an office, i drank bucket loads of coffee daily. Didn’t really care what it tasted like. I now have maybe 3-4 cups a week max and like using a stove pot espresso maker…i like cuban, turkish, arabic style minus sweetness. It’s funny England is thought of as a tea drinking nation but hundred of years before any Brit had drunk tea and before Starbucks, coffee houses were all the rage.

    • Reply Makeup Brew April 13, 2016 at 3:45 PM

      Lynda!!!? HI!! OMG, thank you for stopping by, reading, and leaving your thoughts!! I always think of you drinking tea with Harry Potter! hahaha I’m so glad you’ve upgraded your coffee taste buds! I can’t believe I drank such crappy coffee for so long! What a crap way to live life! Lol before starbucks! OO turkish style! I need to work my way up to this level- you’re so advanced! Cheers coffee loving friend! xoxo

  • Reply Melissa Castaneda April 12, 2016 at 10:55 PM

    Omg, I love this on so many different levels Kate!!!! Poop water! So I’m half-Brazilian and vividly remember relentlessly begging for this magic liquid! I also remember my mother giving it to me in my night time milk, which was… Heaven! (I think I was 5ish) Every Sunday we would all get together and drink coffee endlessly and eat papo secos, dip them in coffee and fight over the last cup of the 5 batch! I’m sure I’ve never had truly grade A, quality coffee, but definitely took notes here! Fond memories fuel my obsession! I do know I’ve never been impressed with Starbucks, or most avg other bug chain coffee store, and have always felt there are better options out there! Love this! 💓💓

    • Reply Makeup Brew April 13, 2016 at 3:59 PM

      Hi Melissa! Thank you for stopping by! This is so exciting to see so much conversation from one post! I love hearing from you and everyone (well like all 4 of you!) Isn’t it so great how coffee can conjure up memories of a childhood? Also a loving childhood surrounded by family and just happy memories! The smell of this poop water…so many feels!! If you ever want me to review anything coffee or makeup, let me know, I’d love to serve my readers the best I can! Thanks so much for your feedback!! xoxo

  • Reply Grace April 12, 2016 at 12:33 PM

    I left a comment on your Insta post, but I love seeing positive comments on my (very neglected lol) blog. I figure other people enjoy comments on their blogs, too, so here I am!

    I died at the Josh Groban mugs… not to be used and are only for display/show. I honestly laughed out loud. Your posts always make me smile!

    • Reply Makeup Brew April 13, 2016 at 4:02 PM

      Hi Grace!!! Honestly, blog comments are like 560,034,345 times more exciting than insta anything!! Thank you for taking the time to read and leave your thoughts! I really appreciate it! I didn’t think anyone would even like this but it’s been great! I’m glad you all enjoyed reading this and left such wonderful stories of your own! I enjoy your blog and I know it’s hard to keep up, but I’ll be here waiting for the next one, Grace! OMG and JOSH GROBAN!!!!!! *swoon* I had 5 of his songs playing at my wedding and my guests were like OMG… but everyone just knew it and they were all like “We were waiting for the guy to show up and for you to leave with him.” LOLOL Thanks so much again Grace!! xoxo

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